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Post by Veggi Girl on Jul 18, 2007 1:16:37 GMT -5
So I'm on facebook just checking out all of my notifications and pokes and whatnot and I see "Inbox (1)" and I think "Oh great, someone else is going to complain about my notes." So I click "Inbox" just to see who it is...
IT WAS MY EX'S CURRENT GIRLFRIEND!!!!
I guess people are starting to say they are worried about her because of my ex and she thought I was the right person to turn to... Now I'm stuck. I don't want my ex back. I've made up my mind on that, but what if she asks what happened between us? I mean... A LOT happened! Some really personal stuff, but I kind of feel like if I don't tell her then I'm setting her up to get hurt like I did. And really, this girl has done nothing to hurt me. She wasn't the one my ex left me for, she's the 3rd girl he's dated since me, and she wrote me as if I'm some sort of Goddess who can answer her questions.
I wrote her back telling her that I'd talk about him, but I'm afraid that if I tell her what has happened and my ex finds out and she ends up ending the relationship, he'll come looking for me as if I ruined his life. I don't like confrontation with this guy. But I can't just leave her to get hurt by him. So I'm really confused.
HELP!!! PLEASE!
-Veggi
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Post by stars mystify on Jul 18, 2007 10:04:25 GMT -5
Oh wow, that's a real problem. I don't know what to say. Except that if you really are worried for this girl's safety, or you don't want her to get hurt, then just tell her it might be better to get out of the relationship. You don't have to go into detail about what happened between you and the guy. Just that you had a bad experience with him, and think it'd be good to end it with him.
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Post by Veggi Girl on Jul 18, 2007 13:41:17 GMT -5
I know, I was thinking that. If I do that my ex is gonna know I had something to do with it though. Which normally wouldn't bother me except he'd spread lies about me at his school and I'm friends with those people. He probably already has done that though. I just don't know. I mean, he did some pretty rotten things to me and I'm not sure saying "I think you should end it" or something is going to help her at all. I mean, a lot of people told me I should have ended it when we were together, but I didn't listen because I figured what do they know about it? But if they would have told me (like after he broke up with me a girl he went out with said she broke up with him because he always flirted with other people and were always really close to other people) I may have listenend ya know... I just really don't know what all to say that's going to help her.
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Post by stars mystify on Jul 21, 2007 9:43:56 GMT -5
I'm sort of in the same position you're in. Sort of. I just broke up with my boyfriend whom I've been going out with for 9 months. Problem is, I didn't really break up with him. The guy I like, Dan, did. He messaged my boyfriend through Myspace telling him that he didn't deserve me and that he treated me like crap and was an asshole for it. So Eric (my ex bf) messages me and says "by your request I will ignore this" but I knew the truth was... what Dan had said. So I told him I was sorry it had to end this way and sorry he had to hear that from Dan. I told him I did love him but it just wasn't working out. He sent me a message back calling me low class, a dog and a player. Pretty much a bitch. So I know he's going to spread rumors to his friends and around the school about stuff that we did, and stuff we didn't do. And I wouldn't mind if I wasn't moving back. Ugh. I just don't want to have to see his face because I'm scared of what he'll do or say to me.
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Post by Veggi Girl on Jul 21, 2007 18:31:51 GMT -5
Yeah, I sent a message back to that girl, and she sent me another one... I pretty much told her everything becaue I guess my ex is pretty much obsessed with her now. Like I guess he cut himself the other day for no reason. I just hate that he ended up like that. It makes me really sad that I used to love him and now he's going to shit.
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Post by stars mystify on Jul 22, 2007 13:28:06 GMT -5
Oh wow, that's really sad that people get like that. =[ It's a good thing you told her though.
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Post by Veggi Girl on Jul 22, 2007 14:05:19 GMT -5
I know. I mean, I shouldn't even be worried about it because he's not supposed to be a part of my life anymore, but when I think about how I used to love him so much and now he's doing this kind of thing, it kinda breaks my heart all over again. ya know?
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Post by Veggi Girl on Jul 23, 2007 13:31:55 GMT -5
So, yeah, he found out. And he left me a message and accused me of trying to ruin his relationship... the jackass. i was like, "she's the one who came to me for help so why don't you get your facts straight before you accuse me of something like that"
Gosh, he just pisses me off.
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Post by stars mystify on Aug 5, 2007 17:59:56 GMT -5
You tell him veggi!! I hope things are going better for you now. =]
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Post by Veggi Girl on Aug 6, 2007 2:20:01 GMT -5
Well he dropped it. lol. I still talk to his GF though because she's a completely cool person. ha ha. She said she thinks she has to dump him because of how he's been acting. And on top of all that confusion, I got a new bf, but I have to break up with him... urgh, life pretty much sucks hardcore.
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Post by stars mystify on Aug 8, 2007 19:30:07 GMT -5
I'm so sorry veggi. =[ I sort of know what you're goin through. We'll make it through! =]
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Post by Veggi Girl on Aug 8, 2007 23:52:47 GMT -5
lol. Yeah, and my new bf, well, he was talking to me on IM and he was like saying these stupid things like how he and his cousin or friend or something made a $100 bet about whether or not he'd have a gf by this summer. Yeah, needless to say I was mad and told him he needed to call me (he lives like an hour and a half away and it's long distance so I can't call him 'cause it's a diff. area code) and now when he calls he talks to me for like, 10 minutes and we don't even get to the part where i get to talk to him about how mad I am. It sucks. but yeah, I could really use a break from all of this. lol
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Post by SirRandomness on Aug 9, 2007 0:05:07 GMT -5
wow your Ex boyfriend sounds... no offence.. like an asshole making a bet to see if someone could get a gf is by far the most stupidest things i've heard.. and i wish i could tell you i know how you feel... but i don't know.. but if i were in your position i would try and get him straightened out and if he doesn't grow up... thats tough on him cuz he shouldn't treat people like that... my opinion
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Post by Veggi Girl on Aug 9, 2007 0:12:42 GMT -5
actually this one is still dating me 'cause he won't talk to me long enough for me to break up with him... my ex is an asshole though. lol. and about the bet thing, i really thought that only happened in movies... it was a complete shock when i found out.
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Post by SirRandomness on Aug 9, 2007 0:28:07 GMT -5
wow... thats... terrible! yeah i would never make a bet on that. that is like the stupidest thing i've heard of.. i said that already
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